Hello lovelies, it’s Amelia! Today, I wanted to talk about something very important to me and that’s self-love.
Recently, I made the decision to start taking a lot of photos of myself. Some I would use filters and others I wouldn’t. In some photos, I would have makeup and others I wouldn’t. While I’ve always known that I have the ability to look super pretty or super cute, for whatever reason, I’ve just never had the self-confidence to actually post anything.
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about the fact that I have so many self-image issues. At first, I just wanted to post the pictures on Instagram. They didn’t get much attention, despite trying a bunch of different hashtags.
I had an extremely different result on Twitter. When I used the images to promote my blog posts, they got a great amount of attention. Seeing that people were happy to come check them out, I decided, hmm, maybe I can use all these selfies to my advantage!
For years, I’ve only used stock imagery for my blog posts. Recently, people have been making all of these super professional-looking image shares for Instagram and Pinterest. They’re really cute, but I don’t know what it is about them. For whatever reason, all the pins start looking really similar to me. I wanted to add personality.
So, I figured, as I’ve been working to rebuild my personal brand, I might as well use these images as more than just random vanity posts. I mean, really, it’s more learning to slowly better appreciate my self-image.
After all, personal branding is so important these days and people need to actually see you as a physical person. In the old days, you really could get away with a cute logo, or a cartoon avatar, then make some clever social media posts. Now, though, if you don’t immediately strike people as a person that people want to talk to, they’re just going to ignore you.
That doesn’t mean you have to be obnoxiously vain or outrageous to have any success. I know that’s not true, because there’s tons of really sweet, humble, and just wonderful people out there. But, unlike social media’s early days, you can’t just mosey around and drop links to your stuff. You have to be super involved in threads, chats, and communities, or you’re just not really going to go anywhere.
So, I decided, well, I have a lot of different facets to my personality that don’t necessarily come through my words. This is why I decided to use my love of photography to more fully develop my online persona. I’ve been alternating between the glam and the real. What I’ve come to see is that I’m now appreciating my own natural, unfiltered beauty a lot more.
This has all been a very important exercise for me. As somebody who’s been through a lot of tough breaks, especially in the last five or six years. I’ve never felt good enough about myself, and I’ve never felt attractive enough to put myself out there on a regular basis. But, I know that I want to help others sparkle and shine. So, first, I have to learn how to do that myself.
I think it’s working. The day I’m writing this, I met these really awesome Twitter lovelies. They were doing this mental health chat. I was feeling really unfocused and blah, so I decided to chime in. I just totally jumped in and was shamelessly myself in a way I’ve never been before. They enjoyed my banter so much they actually invited me to join their team!
That was a freaking awesome feeling! I’m so honored. You know, I’ve never really been invited to be part of anything. I’ve kind of always been sort of a loner just shouting in the darkness. After all, that is why I call myself the Phoenix Desertsong.
The Phoenix goes down, but keeps being reborn from the ashes. I go by Desertsong because I feel like I’m out in the middle of the desert singing to myself. But, now, I’m rising above that humble beginning and elevating the Phoenix Desertsong where she belongs, scorching the skies with her fiery brilliance!
The problem is for too long I tried to be this sweet, extra-conscientious professional. While that’s a nice thing to want to be if you’re working an office job, it’s not really me. It’s not who I truly am. Amelia Grace is a very hyper, fun-size queer who just wants to have fun and spread love, hope, and kindness to everyone. God loves a cheerful giver, right?
This is why I made a conscious decision to learn how to better love myself in order to help others better love themselves. The fact that I feel not only OK with, but happy about posting pics of muah without filters, is a huge mental health step for me. I’m really psyched about no-filter gorgeousness!
As for doing videos, well, there’s still time for that! Baby steps!
I hope you’ll join me on this journey towards building an unstoppable sense of healthy self-love! Remember, be shamelessly, beautifully YOU, and show your sparkle!
~ Amelia <3